The Codependent Enabler
Toxic Co-Dependency Unveiled
Lyrics
If you've got cut marks i will love you
If you have self-harm scars, I will love and accept you.
If you've ever OD'd
If you have ever overdosed on drugs, it indicates a connection between us.
Then you were made for me
The speaker feels a special connection with someone who has faced significant challenges.
If you don't talk to your parents
If you have difficulties communicating with your parents, the speaker is willing to take on a parental role.
I'll be your parent you don't need therapy
The speaker is willing to substitute for therapy and provide support.
'Cause you've got me yes, you've got me
Expressing commitment and availability for the person in need.
This is why
The speaker is about to elaborate on the reasons for their commitment.
I have a dream where I'm your hero
The speaker dreams of being a hero for the person, possibly tied to a sense of fulfillment or purpose.
'Cause I can only get it up if you are down
A sexual reference, suggesting the speaker's emotional state is linked to the other person's struggles.
Is it toxic masculinity? Is it ego?
Reflecting on whether the speaker's behavior is influenced by toxic masculinity or ego.
I'll distract you from the issue
The speaker's strategy is to divert attention from problems rather than addressing them directly.
While you crumble to the ground
The speaker provides distraction while the person faces difficulties.
(And you will) crumble to the ground
Reiteration of the person's inevitable emotional breakdown.
I will never challenge you to get better
The speaker avoids pushing the person to improve themselves.
I will tell you
The speaker will attribute problems to the person's friends rather than addressing personal responsibility.
That it's all your friends' fault
Expressing commitment to stay with the person through good times and bad.
I will stay inside with you in sunny weather
The speaker will invest in a healthy lifestyle but may not follow through.
Buy a lot of healthy food and watch it rot
Emphasizing the speaker's tendency to let things decay or fall apart.
(Yes, watch it rot) one more time
Repetition of the idea of watching things decay.
I have a dream where I'm your hero
Reiteration of the dream of being a hero, tied to the person's emotional state.
'Cause I can only get it up if you are down
Reiteration of the sexual reference and emotional dependency.
And I'll support whatever narrative
The speaker will support any narrative the person creates to justify their actions.
That you need to make it seem like your old
The speaker supports a narrative where the person appears older and more experienced.
Friends are the crazy ones not you
The speaker deflects blame from the person, attributing it to their friends.
Definitely not you (Not you)
Emphasis on the person not being considered crazy by the speaker.
Until one day when I go
Anticipation of a future event where the speaker leaves town.
Out of town and you go
The person goes to a bar and encounters an old coworker.
To a bar and run into an old coworker
Introduction of a potential challenge in the relationship.
You'll talk about self-care
The conversation at the bar revolves around self-care, highlighting a contrast with the speaker's behavior.
And I'll text you goodnight
The speaker sends a goodnight text, maintaining a semblance of normalcy.
And you'll forget to respond
The person forgets to respond, indicating a growing distance.
And this will go on and on and on and on and
Repetition suggesting an ongoing cycle of neglect in the relationship.
I had a dream where I was your hero
Returning to the dream of being a hero, but now acknowledging toxic masculinity and ego as part of the speaker's identity.
'Cause I am toxic masculinity i am ego
Explicit acknowledgment of toxic masculinity and ego in the speaker's identity.
And so your old friend Jane
Introduction of another character, Jane, who may be taking advantage of the person's codependence.
As it turns out I am leeching
The speaker admits to leeching off the person's codependence.
Off your codependence your codependence
Repetition emphasizing the speaker's reliance on the person's codependence.
Your codependence your codependence
Reiteration of the person's codependence and its significance
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